I am a huge fan of the Bachelor and the Bachelorette and do not
mind admitting it! If any of you out there watch the show religiously , you
would know that more often than not, the show ends with heartaches and
heartbreaks. Only 17% of the bachelor/
bachelorette relationships have ended up being successful. One has to
wonder, are shows such as the Bachelor or other dating shows a realistic way to
get to know a future spouse? Or is it a recipe for a disaster?
Personally, I could never partake in a dating show, but that
is just my opinion! On shows like the Bachelor, the Bachelor starts off with twenty
plus female candidates. As time goes on,
the numbers diminish and the bonds grow stronger between the women and the
bachelor. As the number of candidates diminish, the competition rises and the
affections grow deeper. I cannot see how
this could be healthy for a developing relationships . Not only that but
condoning serial open relationships are not a good start either. Many times on the show this has caused severe
strains amongst the potential spouses and the bachelor/bachelorette. For example, last year on the Bachelor; Brad Womack
had proposed to Emily
Maynard but it did not turn out to be the fairy tale they
thought it would be. Proclaiming
that they were going to “make it” to People magazine. After the show, Emily
told P the magazine about her issues with watching the show and looking back at
Brad’s relationship with the other women of the show. This overall ended up having a toll on the
couple and Brad’s inability to remain faithful to Emily lead to the engagement ending
soon after.
Another issue that surfaces with the Bachelor and the
Bachelorette, is the atmosphere itself .
The potential spouses are all gathered in the same household and are
first hand witnesses to all that happens with the other candidates and the
bachelor . This environment can be
extremely straining and jealousy can cause tension . When the couples go on dates they are in the
most amazing destinations such as France, Tahiti
, Bora Bora , Italy and the list goes on .
I personally would like to just go on the show for the vacations! But in
all honesty, this is not a realistic atmosphere to really get to know a future
spouse. Going on vacation with someone is one thing, but actually spending time
with them just doing day to day activities is a different story.
Not only that but the dates that the contestants go on are
second to none. All of them being once
in a life time experiences. Last year for example, on the Bachelor, Ben took
one of the contestants to walk on the top of the Bay
bridge in San Francisco, California.
Although it is an amazing experience , it is anything
but realistic. How would a contestant or the bachelor/bachelorette even be able
to tell if they are actually enjoying the company of one of the candidates or
is it just the date itself? I wouldn’t care if I was trapped with my worst
enemy if we were in a destination such as Switzerland or England. You would somehow learn to like them!
Shows like this not only give unrealistic
expectations to the members that are partaking in the show itself, but it
also gives false hopes to viewers at home. Although it would be nice to be
taken on some of the dates that have been showcased on the series throughout
the years, it should not warp the true meaning of falling in love. Magazines,
social media, music and television have warped love to be a perfect romance
(with flowers and chocolate included). Unfortunately, that is not the case.
Love is far from any of those things and takes a lot of hard work, dedication,
compromise and understanding.
Many viewers believe that the Bachelor and Bachelorette are
the most romantic shows on television. Even if that might be the case , it is a
surreal way not a realistic way of falling in love with someone. Although the
show seems like a fairy
tale scenario , it does not always end that way. Once the show is all set and done many of the
Bachelor/ Bachelorette relationships do not last because they do not know how
to cope with the everyday type of situations.
Those everyday circumstances are what help build strong bonds and long
lasting relationships, and not what culture, society and the media tell us.
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